Phone sex is about exploring the taboo. Nothing is a better example of that than domination play. Despite being literally the most popular kink in the world, people still get nervous about admitting they want to try it. Phone sex gives you a safe place with an experienced partner to try out all of your domination fantasies. However, if you’re not experienced, there are things to watch out for with domination phone sex.

Know Each Other’s Roles and Limits

The only thing than two doms trying to figure out how to have sex is two subs trying to figure out how to have sex. Just because someone lists “domination” in their bio doesn’t mean they’re the right fit. Knowing which of you will dominate and which of you will be dominated in the bedroom is critical for a good sexual experience. It’s also important to go over safewords and hard limits. Nothing ruins a dom session like a dom who won’t respect a limit. Once you’ve done that, you’re ready to start playing. 

For Subs

The trick to being a sub is knowing when to stop. A sub who is constantly using the safe word or won’t accept any discomfort is the worst possible thing a sexual partner can be: boring. If you agreed to sub, on some level you need to shut up and accept your place. When it comes to being dominated, some of the experiences that you’ll fantasize about for the rest of your life can be downright terrifying when they’re happening. On the other hand, sex is supposed to be fun. Being dominated should feel like being on a roller coaster: you’re kinda scared, and you’re not in control, but the second the ride ends, you want to get back on again.

For Doms

Being a dom is a job as much as a kink. Taking control means taking responsibility. Your sub is trusting you to make sure this is a satisfying sexual experience. The most extreme form of domination is CNC, or Consensual Nonconsent. In this scenario, your sub agrees to act as though nothing you are doing to them is consensual and everything is forced. Why is this important to talk about? Because even when playing this extreme scenario, your sub’s safety and pleasure is still your number 1 priority. Your subs job is to give into the scene. Your job is to always remember that everything you’re doing is just for fun.